The relationship/bound between one and his/herself is extraordinarily complex and strange. What so ever wrong one does towards another person seems to profoundly find an excuse for themself and a way to blame the Other. Most of the times -I think- this excuse/blame-thing is uncontrolled, which makes it even more complex and weirder.

It comes to one’s mind right away after any quarrel or misunderstanding that all what they have said is perfectly right, innocent and harmless (and that what they said falls within the unmeant and not-on-purpose deed). And that what the Other has uttered or done is absolute wrongness and evil (falls within the done-on-purpose).

This very close bound between one and themself causes countless disputes, misunderstandings and ends of relationships.

I personally find it very exhausting and challenging to understand this bound. But what I understand quite perfectly is that the ones (although a minority) who manage to control this this bound, be above it and see things as they are, in a neutral/logical/unbiased way and act accordingly are really elevated-minds and high-quality personalities.